Are You With The Right Partner?

Read this article before the break up. Showed it to him, but I doubt he read it. Because if he had, and if he had tried to understand it, we wouldn't be where we are today. Saw it again today, and decided to share it on my blog.

All I can say is, that some people will really see the "breakdown" period of a relationship as an invitation to let go and end it all, because in their mind, they think "No, if we continue, it will end up going no where. We will end up in divorce."

What I'm trying to say is, it all boils down to whether or not, a person wants you. If he or she sincerely wanted to stay on, nothing can make him or her leave you.

ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER..???
During a seminar, a woman asked, "How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered, "How do you know?"
"Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind," replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression.It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. (Op: I guess this was what happened to my relationship with him. He started saying I annoyed him, he refused my hugs, and found the things I like stupid and immature.)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

I believe it takes both to make a relationship work.
Because only the right person will be willing to learn how to love you and sustain the relationship with you, rather than seeking for more options outside of the relationship just because he or she has grown tired and weary of the situations.

A right person, will never give up on you, no matter how tough the road gets.